I’m turning 28 today! And I don’t usually write this kind of posts but as it happens to be in sync with my posting day, I realized it could be interesting to reflect on the past year and (maybe) prepare the next. In the same vibe, I really enjoyed reading Laetitia’s life lessons for her 30th birthday (only available in French) and it inspired me to think about everything I’ve learned this year.
I tend to be a little nostalgic when my birthday approaches. I’m a bit of a control freak and I hate losing my time. Most generally I think time flies by so quickly that one of my greatest fears is to wake up some day with the deepest regret of not having given myself my best chance.
There has been highs and lows this year, as probably with every year, and I must say I’m not feeling my best as I’m writing these words. As I think it’s important to not occult the bad moments completely from the Internet (you guys know as much as I do how a perfectly curated image someone gives on the Internet can translate into a bubble of comparison and bad thoughts for the people on the other end of the screen) I will only say that my weeks aren’t the most joyful. On weekdays I’m dreading going to work, feeling like I’m trapped in a job I don’t like anymore, and on weekends I feel terribly lonely.
I know there’s worse to live with, of course. I don’t mean that I’m not enjoying my own company, I really do. I’m an introvert through and through and I need the alone time. But I also need to share things, laugh, and feel like I can rely on someone, know that they’ll be there for me. I have friends, of course, but our lifestyles are different now and I feel like there is a distance between us, it’s just not the same anymore.
Anyway, I know it’s time to take the bull by the horns and I’m set on focusing on this (both the job situation and meeting people) for the year to come, it’s just easier said than done.
So here’s what I’ve learned from my 27th year:
- It’s okay to slow down and there’s no need to beat yourself up if you failed at doing something you were meant to be doing that day.
- I can travel by myself if I want to, I’m capable
- I’m genuinely happy for my friends’ successes. I used to be bitter (sadly) but I’ve learned to be truly happy for them and it’s liberating
- It’s hard to let go, but you can’t help someone that doesn’t want your help
- I can pick up where I left off with some friends, even after not seeing them for at least 6 months and it’s one way to know who matters most because it feels just right.
- My relatives are the most important people in my life.
- It’s okay to admit you need help.
- You’re not doing as bad as you think, what’s important is that you’re doing the best you can
- Be your own cheerleader, and don’t rely on others too much
- It’s never too early to start doing what you really want to do
What's the mood on your birthday? Are you the worrying about the future kind or is it a splendid occasion to party and let go?