Something you may not know about me is that I’ve never left home and am still living at my parents’ for now. I haven’t got a lot of friends that are still in my situation, so I feel like I’m really late to this thing but that was a deliberate choice of mine and as I’m about to move out soon, I wanted to explain my reasons and why I don’t regret any of it.
Discarding people opinions
While I was annoyed at a time at people who were like « So you’re still living with your parents?! How can you stand it? », I’m positive that it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s really important that everyone live life at their own pace and it doesn’t matter if you take your time to do the things that you’re expected to. I have a loving family that’s a big part of my life and that’s not gonna stop anytime soon. I’ve never felt restricted at home and so there was no rush of moving out so quickly.
Giving yourself your best chance
One of the reasons I never left home is that living really close to Paris, I had access to everything: big universities, multiple job possibilities, and so on. My work field is not something that requires me to go to some specific place and it was only natural for me to go to college like I went to high school, although I had to discover public transportation but never exceeding a 1-hour long commute.
When I got my first real job 3 years ago, it never occurred to me to move out just yet because the company was only 30 minutes away from home (by bus, even faster by car but there was no parking space for me) so it was a very good deal to keep on saving.
I had enough to ask for a loan this year and thankfully it made my project much more tangible.
So what’s next?
Well, I’m really excited to have something to look forward to. Although I’m grateful for everything that I have at home, sometimes you just need to provoke change in order to feel like you’re not stuck with your own life and in order to grow up. Becoming fully independent is gonna be quite a challenge but it is time. I’m ready to take my everyday life to another level (and have people over and host dinner parties
and deal with responsibilities).
Are you still living with your parents? How was it for you when you decided to move out?